ASK JILL
Kevin and I have been having sex for a few months. He's my first, and we went out for ages before we did it. We talked to each other to make sure we were both ready and now we talk about what we want and how we feel. Sometimes, younger people and friends ask me stuff like these questions.
Questions for Jill
Q. Does it hurt when a boy puts his penis in you?
A. Sex shouldn't normally be painful, but if you're not ready or you're very tense, there is a chance it could hurt. That's one reason why it's best to wait until you're sure you're ready and you really want to do it. Have a look at some of these links for more information.
Q. I have small tits. Will I ever get a boyfriend?
A. No matter what they may say to each other, boys like all kinds and shapes of girls. And boys are interested in your personality, too. Have a look at some of these links for more information.
Q. When will I be ready for sex? Lots of girls in my class say they're doing it already.
A. Remember that some girls might not be telling the truth. And anyway, people develop at different speeds. Part of maturing is realising that you should only do things when and if you feel ready and not just because other people say. Have a look at some of these links for more information.
Q. If I go to the clinic and get condoms will they tell my Mum?
A. In Scotland you have a right to confidentiality even if you are under sixteen, as long as you are not in harm or harming others. In which case the staff would discuss the situation with you. Have a look at some of these links for more information.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to touch his penis but I'm not sure I'm ready. Where can I find out about stuff like that?
A. Part of maturing is realising that you should only do things when and if you feel ready and not just because other people say. Try these links - there's lots to think about here!
